Shifting from Co-Dependent to Independent

Codependency is a very ugly – and unhealthy – personality trait. A codependent person instinctively seeks out relationships with people who are unable to meet their emotional needs. Eventually, what is supposed to be a loving and supportive partnership is overrun by obsession, control, and resentment which ends with the codependent emotionally unwell and the relationship destroyed. Even more devastating, however, is the effect codependency has on a person’s relationship with themselves. A codependent defines themselves in terms of their relationships with others, measuring their worth based solely on what they can do for other people, becoming deeply entrenched in other people’s problems and needs, leaving little energy to focus on their own needs.