Science about Women Breasts and it's Role in Ultimate Arousal
Step 5: Let her be the teacher.
Dr. de Wit also encourages the idea of showing, rather than telling. “By passing
the power on to her, she gets to be the teacher, he says. “You can say things
like, ‘Touch yourself and show me what you like.’ That can be really erotic.”
Dr. O’Reilly suggests trying out positions that let the man hold her breasts in
place to get a better idea of her preferences. “Reach around from behind during
doggie-style or place her own hands on her breasts as she rides you so she can
show you just how she likes to be touched,” she says.
Step 6: Pay attention to her reactions and breathing.
Says de Wit: “Be aware of what’s going on with the rest of her body—her
breathing, the way she moans, her flush.” But don’t ignore the breasts
themselves: Sexual arousal causes more blood flow to the breasts, and often
results in the breast tissue swelling up to 25%. “Reddening of the skin on the
breasts and darkening of the areolas are also good signs she’s into it,” he
advises.
Step 7: If she likes rougher play, get a little kinky.
“Nipple clamps are awesome, and that slight amount of pressure can be really
hot,” Somoza says. “There’s a whole school of thought that women like to have
some sort of restraint around their breast—adding a little roughness to it makes
them feel sexy.”
Step 8: Use different sensations.
For women who aren’t as adventurous, a combination of hot and cold touches can
be as arousing as clamps. “Use ice cubes—it’s almost painful ,and that can be
super hot for a lot of women,” Somoza says. She also suggests a lesser-known
object: fur mitts. “Different types of material like that can be really
pleasurable.”
Step 9: Compliment the ladies.
If you love her breasts, tell her! “Compliments are the most powerful
aphrodisiacs, and feeling comfortable in her skin will help to elevate her mood,
libido and sexual response,” says Dr. O’Reilly. Gently tease her ladies, and
you’ll see how quickly you can up the ante in the bedroom—with just the right
touch, you’ll turn good sex into great sex.
Your boobs are wily little seductresses.They poke proactively out of bikini
tops, peek over lacy push-up bras, and flaunt their fabulousness naked in
bed—turning any red-blooded heterosexual male into a panting pile of mush.
But what most women don't realize is that their boobs can give them heaps of
satisfaction too. "The majority of research is geared toward keeping breasts
healthy, and not nearly enough is known about how women can enjoy their breasts
during sex," says Debby Herbenick, Ph. D., a sexual-health educator at the
Kinsey Institute at Indiana University.
When your partner caresses your breasts, your brain releases a warm and fuzzy
chemical into your bloodstream called oxytocin, says Beverly Whipple, Ph. D.,
professor emerita at Rutgers University. This powerful love hormone, also
triggered by hugging and orgasm, fosters a strong bonding feeling between you
and your partner.
To maximize its effect, while you're on top, have your guy sit up and wrap your
arms around his neck, pressing your breasts into his chest. Or, while in
missionary, pull him toward you until your nipples graze his chest and focus on
synchronizing your breathing. This touching and heaving at the same time will
boost intimacy, and—because arousal increases blood flow—your breasts will feel
warm, making your embrace feel even cozier.
The same way a guy can become erect just like that, a woman's breasts can stand
at attention sans direct contact. In fact, the mere suggestion of sexual touch
can fire off pleasurable sensations in your breasts. To make your hills come
alive without actually touching them, "have your guy rest his fingertips lightly
on your sternum (the middle of your chest), then move them toward either breast,
drawing light circles over the entire area," says Jaiya, co-author of Red Hot
Touch. His barely there caress will stimulate the microscopic hairs on your
boobs and the fine-touch nerves under the skin's surface, creating
bliss-inducing shivers.
Your man may be good with his hands, but encourage him to touch your chest with
something less expected once in a while. The feel of soft jersey sheets, cool
body lotion, or even silky fabric can make sex more thrilling. "Introducing
various types of sensation adds a new feel to ordinary touch," says Ian Kerner,
Ph. D., author of She Comes First. During sex, have him rub your breasts with a
pair of silk underwear, tickle your nipples with a feather, or smooth hand cream
all over your girls. And don't overlook the benefits his body can bring. Press
your boobs into his smooth back, or dangle them over his face during girl on
top, tracing them over his nose, cheekbones, and lips—or just glide his penis
across your chest.
Those nipples, always hogging the spotlight. But they're actually not the most
sensitive region of the chest. The flesh directly above the areola (the colored
skin surrounding the nipple) is the real star of the show. "We think of nipples
as primary erogenous zones—which they are, to a degree—but that's partially
because they're so visible," Jaiya says.
"However, studies have shown that women feel more pleasurable sensations above
them."
Have your guy rub the 10 o'clock to two o'clock zones with an ice cube, then
blow hot air on the wet parts for head-to-toe chills. Or, while in missionary,
he can use the tip of his tongue to lick circles around the area, slowly moving
down to your nipple and areola (the second most sensitive zone on your breast).
The pressure from his tongue will activate a tiny muscle just beneath the
surface that flips on your headlights so he can then flick them ever so gently
with his tongue.
Mix things up by hopping in the shower with your guy and turning the faucet to
hot (but not scorching). The heat brings blood to the skin's surface and
elevates body temperature, both of which make your skin more sensitive to the
touch, says Sandor Gardos, Ph. D., founder of mypleasure.com, an online sex-toy
store. Then have your guy soap up your breasts. The feeling of his hands
slipping and sliding all over your boobs combined with the hot water will get
both your libidos racing. Also consider experimenting with the settings on your
shower head—the pulsate function will provide direct, massaging pressure, while
a lighter one will feel more soothing. Not in the mood for a shower? Having your
guy massage your breasts with a steamy wet towel will reap similar benefits.
Your breasts may be his go-to spot on your bod, but how often do you luxuriate
in the sensuality of your own curves? Never? Well, you're missing out. "Some
women don't take the opportunity to relish their breasts during sex (or solo
sex), especially if they're self-conscious about their cup size," Kerner says.
But guess what—all women, regardless of bra size, have the same amount of nerve
endings and feel an equal amount of pleasure--and experts say boobs can grow up
to 25 percent bigger when aroused.
The trick is to tailor the type of touch to your size. In general, women with
larger breasts can handle a slightly firmer grip because they have more fatty
tissue. So when you're on top, cup your boobs, lift them slightly, and squeeze.
Feeling their full weight can be a huge turn-on. If you have a smaller set, push
your breasts together with the sides of your arms to create eye-popping
cleavage. Or, while you're in the spoon position, reach up and feel them jiggle
with every thrust.
Many people are aware that when women are breastfeeding, they experience
contraction of their uterus that can vary in intensity from pleasurable to
painful. The body achieves this through the hormone oxytocin, which is released
when the breasts and nipples are stimulated. This can alarm some women who find
themselves feeling sexually aroused while nursing, but it is a natural
phenomenon that is not dependent on erotic thought. This release of oxytocin
with breast and nipple stimulation happens in women that are not nursing as
well. Oxytocin release is also responsible for the nipple becoming erect with
excitement and stimulation, caused by contraction of smooth muscle underneath
the skin of the areola which pulls on the overlying skin creating a goosebump-like
effect.
As the breasts continue to receive stimulation, oxytocin continues to be
released into the bloodstream, which has it's most intense effects within the
first 5 minutes after release, but can continue to increase contractions for up
to an hour. But as breast stimulation continues, so does release of oxytocin.
What this translates into is more intense uterine orgasms as well as the feeling
of having your whole body involved in your orgasm. Also, about 1% of women can
experience an orgasm just from having their breasts and nipples stimulated,
which is called the oxytocin pathway to orgasm. Oxytocin is also responsible for
that tingly feeling after sexual arousal and/or orgasm, as well as a sense of
sexual satisfaction.
Usually stimulation is most intense when started off slow with gentle pressure,
building up as the excitement level increases. Breasts can increase about 25-30%
when a woman becomes sexually aroused, and as the stimulation continues, more
intense pressure, sucking, pinching, nibbling, etc. can be tolerated. The
increased blood flow to the breasts during stimulation also accounts for the
pleasure of movement with the motion of intercourse. So we see how the breasts
are a pathway to pleasure to be savored and experimented with, providing women
with stronger orgasms, and wonderful feelings of whole-body involvement in their
sexual experience.
