LEARNING THE ART OF POSITIVE THINKING
Optimism, enthusiasm and a refusal to tolerate boredom
are characteristics that are often associated with young
people. There is no reason why this should be the case,
however, and one of the best ways to remain
psychologically young is to cultivate the art of
positive thinking.
Foster a sense of optimism
Life brings many experiences: some positive and some
negative. As people get older they may fall into the
trap of focusing on negative experiences and unwittingly
cultivating a sense of pessimism about the future.
Pessimism can be further encouraged by media messages
that value youth and denigrate aging.
Resolve to clear out your emotional baggage and foster a
sense of optimism about the present and the future.
Optimism has huge benefits for both psychological and
physical health - it can even boost your immunity to
illness. Make a list of the life experiences that have
affected you positively and negatively. Compare the
positive list with the negative list. Ask yourself if
anything from the negative list can be discarded or
turned into a positive situation. Congratulate yourself
on your achievements in life and concentrate on the
future rather than the past.
Optimism is cultivated by keeping busy and active. Take
up activities that make you feel good about yourself
such as yoga, walking or swimming. Learn something
completely new. Make sure that you are always working
towards new goals and challenges. Set up timetable in
which to meet these goals. For example: "by the end of
the year I will have converted one room of the house
into a studio for painting, reading and music practice".
Distance yourself from problems
If there are situations and problems in your life that
you find inescapable, try to distance yourself from
them. Take an overview: tell yourself that this is one
episode in your life and it will not last indefinitely.
If possible, try to see humor in difficult situations.
Imagine that you are a stranger walking past the window
of your own house. What would the stranger see? What
would the stranger make of the events going on?
Ask yourself whether your current problems will still
affect you in a year's time or in five or ten years? If
you can, let go of things that you cannot change and
concentrate on the things that you can. Remember that,
even if you cannot change a situation, you always have
the option of changing the way that you think about it.
Cultivate a sense of control.
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