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Sure Shot Ways To Lift Your Libido
 Women
Fitness brings to you a research of sure shot ways to lift your libido. We tend
to think of low libido as something that affects mostly older women�but that�s
simply not the case. Roughly 40 percent of all women (premenopausal included)
report having issues with their levels of desire, and at least 12 percent are
troubled enough by them to fall into the category of female sexual dysfunction.
If you have low libido and you're bothered by it, tell your ob-gyn. She�ll be
able to rule out biological causes, like certain meds or hormone imbalances, and
refer you to a sex therapist who can work with you to create a treatment plan.
But in the meantime, these study-proven tricks may also help.
The honeymoon stage won't last forever. But if you've been feeling less than
charged lately you may wonder: How often do these dreaded �sexual plateaus�
occur once you�ve tied the knot. Unfortunately, more than you might assume: 16
percent of married couples haven�t had sex in the past six months to a year,
according to a report from The Kinsey Institute. But don�t blame monogamy�many
sexual roadblocks are easy to divert if you and your man put in the proper
preventative work. Hormonal imbalance could contribute to lackluster sex drive.
1. Sex Break
Sex can be incredible, but it can also be the giant, panting, red elephant
sitting at the dinner table. Eliminating sex from the equation for a few days
might be a good way to ease a bit of pressure and spend a little more time
getting to know your partner.
Finding new ways to get excited and be intimate with yourself or someone new can
be incredible. Cooking, dancing, painting, talking, exercising -- the
possibilities are endless. Get to know your body, your likes and dislikes,
things that turn you on and off and heighten your senses in other ways for a
while.
When you've been in a relationship for a while, the passion can ebb for the
simple reason that you both know exactly what�s coming. It could be the best and
dirtiest sex anyone has ever had, but it doesn't matter: It�s the same as it was
last time. It doesn't mean you care any less about your partner, or find them
any less sexually attractive, it just means you need to break the spell of
sameness, and break out of your stale sex routine.
Admitting it's time to change your stale sex routine. Acknowledging that a
change is needed is the first step in your recovery from a stale sex routine.
Once you have both agreed to make an effort to do things differently, you can
then plan it however you choose as a couple. Think of it as an investment in
your relationship. All you have to do is talk. This is not a serious discussion
� this is a fun discussion. Think of it as a sexual brainstorming session.
Your sexual partnership is part of a bigger whole � your relationship � so treat
this exercise holistically. How willing is your partner to change her habits?
How willing are you? How much effort will it entail? It�s about both of you as
individuals facilitating change for the greater good of your love affair.
Communicating about your sex routine
The best relationships are kept alive by maintaining the passionate dynamic that
gave birth to them in the first place. So, start at the beginning: Remember how
you felt at the thought of being close to her, the things you did to woo her
into your arms and keep her there? Did you weigh less? Did you make more of an
effort in the way you dressed? Did you spend a lot longer on lewd activities?
Going back to the beginning allows you to recall the things that brought you
together, and ensured you stayed together longer than five minutes. Be the man
she fell in love with again.
A practical guide on this subject is difficult to create without the primary key
ingredient: good communication. If everything is hunky-dory in your
relationship, changing your sex life probably won�t be too much of a stretch.
But you have to figure out what it is you want done differently, then talk it
over in a fun, sexy way. Communication is key here, and if you get nervous and
clam up, just remember who you're talking to: someone who knows you very well
and, above all, who�s attracted to you.
Spontaneity is a key ingredient that is often missing from many sexual
relationships after a while. The bed gets used all too frequently because it�s
easy. But it doesn't matter where you do it � sex can get stale even if you
always have it in the kitchen. It might be in the same position with the same
amount of foreplay (or lack thereof). Capturing spontaneity again is one of the
key ingredients to breaking out of your stale sex routines, so whatever you
normally do, don�t. In fact, go ahead and do the opposite.
Teacher and student
Start from scratch one day. If you both pretend you�ve never had sex together
before, you get a clean slate and can �retrain� your partner exactly how you
want to. If you are like most couples, �the way you do it is just the way you do
it,� and while that might be great, there�s always room for improvement. Take
turns being student and teacher. This means it�s a game, not a �you don�t do it
how I want it.� This is a golden opportunity to see, without shame, where you
might be going wrong, or how you could be more right.
2. Try something new
Sexual adventures give you both a break from the norm, and may require some
planning. There are plenty of classics like role playing with props and
costumes, doing it in a different location and going on sex dates. All these
ideas can be fun and, although maybe a little silly at first, they can really
inject a new energy into your sex routine. However, it is important to involve
the brain � our largest sexual organ � not just the pink bits. There are a range
of games for couples where you can find out more about your partner, what they
like, and you get to practice it � you may only need a pack of cards.
Read each other erotic stories, admit a fantasy to each other or watch an adult
movie made by women, for women. You don�t know everything about her (and vice
versa), and fantasies evolve over time, so take advantage of this. A new lease
on your sex life. Spicing up a stale sex routine can be a challenge. It takes
cooperation, energy and time.
However, it�s worth it in the end: It allows you to communicate better with your
partner and, consequently, deepen your bond, learn new things about each other
when you thought you knew it all, and become excited about sex again. Start
tonight � or even right now.
Obvious and standard foreplay moves that women respond to are a good bet for any
lovemaking occasion, but foreplay is not just about giving oral sex or loving
attention to her well-known erogenous zones. The really good stuff has a lot
more to it. It involves her entire body, as well as her mind. Don�t get me
wrong: Chances are there are tons of things you already do to her that she
loves, and luckily for you, none of them require you to be a rocket scientist or
Dirk Diggler to figure out.
An important thing to keep in mind is that the best foreplay is not necessarily
original or adventurous, but it is done with full attention to the job at hand
(or mouth for that matter). Here are six foreplay moves that girls chitchat and
giggle about when they�re talking about their best sexual experiences.
These six ideas are rarely done by men, which is sad because girls love these
moves so much.
Remember: Whatever you choose to do, if you do it like you mean it, your honey
will be giggling about you to her friends in no time.
A. Making Out On The Couch, High-School Style
 Dry humping and �kissathons� are fun because they take you right back to when
you were a teenager and making out was exciting and adventurous. Couch make-out
sessions take the pressure off a girl from having to take her clothes off and be
ready for sex, allowing her to relax and enjoy the moment. Women like to be
teased. Making out with her for hours and never moving into the bedroom will get
her so turned on she�ll be wanting you more than ever before.
The rules: Use the skills you gained in high school. Dry humping is one of the
greatest turn-ons known to mankind, because it is so suggestive without the
actual skin-on-skin touching. It has an element of driving hard for what is
inaccessible. The many layers of clothing provide the padding for the crazed
writhing that ensues a good D.H. session. Playing with your clothes on could
ordinarily be construed as lazy or immature, but not when you are doing it
deliberately. Keeping clothes on can be very sexy.
B. Spontaneous Combustion
Risky, light touching in inappropriate places when sex cannot happen right then
and there is very hot to women and it warms you both up nicely for later. For
example, a warm hand up her top during a movie, or a hand down the side of her
pants while you choose a song from the jukebox at a bar gets her feeling tingly
in all the right places.
The rules: Stop! Keep her wanting: Give her a taste of it then pull back and
watch her rub up against you and begin to purr. The trick with this little baby
is she knows you can�t have sex. Reverse psychology is your friend; she wants
what she can�t have. By the time you get somewhere you can have sex, she will be
tearing at your clothes like a wild woman. Deep tongue kissing and the art of
sensual massage.
C. Deep Tongue Kissing
The long, lingering kiss that doesn't progress anywhere (just yet) is the sort
of kiss that will moisten up her underwear in no time flat, but is deep and long
and slow. She likes it when you savor her, and doing this gets her hot under the
collar.
Deep tongue kissing is one of many formulas to turning you both on. Apparently,
we like deep tongue kissing because it mimics sex � the wet, writhing, sucking,
licking motions get our juices flowing and almost always kick-start our sexual
desire. Increased saliva flow is associated with higher arousal, which makes
sense � the wetter the better. Save the slobbering though.
The rules: The trick with this one is to choose the proper time and place for
this long kiss, and not to overpower her with too much tongue or speed. It is
quite hard to know when a big French kiss is going to go down well. Everyone
loves a decent �snog,� but all people are slightly different, so choose your
moment and make it good.
Instead of using the kiss as a two second start to sex, use it as a moment to
share your passion. Kissing is an intimate sport, creating more intimacy and
closeness between two people, whether it be an emotional closeness, a sexual one
or both.
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Dated 24 February 2015
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